How To Get Past The 40 Stage?

When we reach the 40s stage, we begin to rethink many aspects of our lives.  Maybe we start making decisions that, at another time, would seem unthinkable.

This stage is known as “the 40’s crisis”, and it can affect both men and women. So, problems can be generated in relation to:

• Work.
• Relationship.
• Profession.
• Marital crisis.
• Identity conflicts.

It is a time for reflection and balance in our lives. It’s as if, at that age, a point was marked by what we live and what we still have to do.

It seems that the time that passed was short, or that we did not complete our mission in life.

Sometimes discomfort is generated in the current situation, making us want to feel young again, or the feeling that we haven’t lived up to all expectations.

The reasons for this crisis are diverse, although among the most frequent, we can find:

• Insecurity.
• Excessive liability.
• Routine.
• Boredom.
• Lack of clear goals.

Tips for coping with the 40-year-old stage

1. Trust yourself

Give thanks for everything you’ve lived so far, the excellent life experience you have, the way you faced your problems, what you enjoyed living…

Everything that made him grow and reach that point. Remember that your experience is your best weapon.

2. Set new goals

It is very important to set new challenges and ask yourself where you want to be in the next 5 or 10 years.

You have some wonderful years ahead of you where  you can get everything you think you need  because, on top of that, you have the maturity  and experience that you lacked in your younger years.

3. Change your routine

It’s a good time to make changes of all kinds: in your image, activities, exercises, food…. Anything you can think of.

It’s a good idea to think about learning a new activity, a new hobby… the idea is to get out of the routine and monotony.

You can devote more time to your physique, take care of it, change eating habits, practice a new sport…. The intention is for you to look good inside and out.

4. Strengthen your relationship or marriage

If you have been in a relationship for a long time, it is important that, after several years, the admiration and love remain as strong as in the beginning.

• Look for ways to show your partner and remind him of what you’ve accomplished together over the years.
• Achievements that happened, as children, personal steps you reached, professional promotions. Also, why not, material achievements that you have achieved together.

Seeking to communicate more with your partner at  this stage is essential ; it will certainly do them both a great deal.

Count successes and failures in the relationship and propose changes that can benefit them.

Remember if

Crises mean changes. In your 40s, it can be an excellent opportunity to redirect your life more forcefully than before.

• It’s said to be a complicated age, but not all people are the same. It’s up to you to break this dilemma.
• It can be a very positive time in your life, where changes lead to growth.
• Enjoy your freedom, experience and maturity to be happier.
• Give thanks for everything you have in your life. Chances are you’re focusing too much on what you lack and not on the things you’ve already achieved.
• You must learn to live in the present, enjoy everyday life and the small pleasures of daily life.
• Don’t obsess about the future or lament excessively about the past: enjoy the present.

The 40s stage is a natural process that most people go through. It is entirely up to you how you approach this process  and how you will use it to be a better person.

If you feel unwell and cannot get out of a state of depression, it is important to seek professional help. This way you will get the tools you need to get through this step with less pain.