The 5 Keys Of Respect Between A Couple

Respect between a couple in a relationship is something that does not come without effort: it is earned every day, working with delicacy, reciprocity and with the sincere will of those who understand that love is, above all, knowing how to build.

It is curious how, when talking about this subject, everyone knows how to define it, knows very well what its principles are, and yet, there are few who apply them correctly in their daily lives.

The basic problem with respect lies in the fact that we all want to receive it, but we forget to first offer it to those in front of us.

It’s as if, somehow, we prioritized that of “respect me and then I will respect you” .

But if we talk about this theme applied to couple relationships, the theme becomes more subtle and even more complex.

Because, often, we don’t always appreciate it. “Whoever loves you will respect you” , many people think; however, there is often an opposite behavior in which most affective dynamics are concentrated.

Respect in a couple is not just about not harming the other.

We are faced with a psychological and emotional fabric in which the ultimate purpose goes a little further: we seek a respect that takes care of us, that allows us to grow and that, in turn, makes us accomplices with each other.

Today, in our article, we invite you to delve into this topic that will undoubtedly make you reflect.

1. Respect in the couple needs intentionality

We live in a world where words sell, where people share phrases full of kindness, coexistence and harmony on their social networks that, later, in real daily life, they do not practice with the same feeling.

• Kindness, like respect, if not demonstrated and practiced with a clear intention, is useless.
• In couple relationships, the same happens. Love, by itself, is not enough for a relationship to thrive or to keep it alive.
• Many more dimensions are needed which, together, give full meaning to this relationship and this commitment.
• Therefore, practicing daily respect in which to serve and be served, in which to demonstrate interest, actively listen, reciprocity and in which a person is able to anticipate the real needs of the other, gives shape to this respect that feeds us, that makes us feel good.

2. Empathy: a basic pillar

No one can ever show genuine respect if they don’t apply real, close, intuitive, and sincere empathy.

• The human brain is, above all, an entity developed thanks to sociability, our interactions and that bond that allows us to survive as a species in consolidated groups.
• Empathy, and the mirror neurons that shape it, allow us to see the other as part of ourselves.

We understand and understand what our partner feels, without the need for him to tell us in words.

This is, without a doubt, fundamental to apply this respect in which to know what to do, what to say and what not to say to take care of this person who is so important to us.

3. The importance of knowing the partner in all areas

There are those who say they know their partner as themselves when, in reality, what is prioritized is the person, forcing the other to have the same needs and tastes.

• It must be very clear that, when it comes to building a healthy and happy relationship, it is not essential that we agree on everything.
• Respecting the other’s passions, tastes and beliefs is fundamental, as is knowing your partner, knowing what you don’t like, what bothers you and what are these small details that are part of your personality, your identity.

Without knowledge, there is no respect. It is necessary to remember this because otherwise, and almost without realizing it, we will end up sabotaging the loved one, believing that certain things are not important.

We will make other’s needs vulnerable that we “label” a priori as not being important, thus disappointing the loved one.

4. Gratitude

When was the last time you thanked your partner for something?

A “thank you for being who you are” , a “thank you for being by my side every day” , or a “thank you for making me happy” is a way to practice this respect based on recognition, on valuing those we love, on give importance to who is important to us.

Gratitude practiced with humility strengthens any bond, and even more between the couple.

5. The importance of small details

Respect is not shown with great punctual acts of great value. The happiest and most lasting relationship is one that knows how to take care of everyday details, where respect is wise, intuitive and knows how to value what is important.

On the other hand, we cannot forget that these details are also transmitted through good communication.

So, we must pay attention to these aspects:

• Use words of thanks.
• Communicate without shouting, paying attention to the tone of voice.
• Use “relational” communication: I know how you feel and I respect you for it, tell me how I can help you. Tell me what I can do to make you happier.